The last time you saw your grandma before she died.
That work presentation last month.
Yesterday’s argument with your SO.
Your performance eval next quarter.
That damn toast you agreed to give at the wedding next summer.
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How To Stop Overthinking Everything,
According To Therapists
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Convert, "I can’t believe this happened" to "What can I do to
prevent it from happening again?" or convert "I don’t have good
friends!" to "What steps could I take to deepen the friendships I
have and find new ones?"
We all do it, and most of the time it’s relatively harmless. We churn over what we should have said or
over-plan what we should do, and then we move on. It’s annoying, but most of the time it’s no more
stressful than an earworm song you can’t get out of your head or a nagging discussion you wish you
could redo. But for some people in certain situations, the thinking doesn’t stop and creates even more
distress. This compulsive tendency to overthink has a name in the world of mental health: rumination.
And it's not great.
4. Rumination can definitely be harmful. Think about it: You don't typically overthink good things.
Rumination tends to be about the bad stuff. It isn’t when you replay your last-second game-winning shot
or a well-timed joke; it’s slogging through the negatives. As Winch describes it, “Ruminative thoughts
are, by definition, intrusive. They pop into our minds unbidden and they tend to linger, especially when
the thought is about something really upsetting or distressing.”
1. Well, for starters, it's related to cows.
“To ruminate means to ‘chew over’” according to Winch. “The word is derived from how cows digest their
food. Cows chew, swallow, regurgitate, then chew again. This works well for cows but what humans
chew over is our distressing thoughts. Ruminating therefore means to brood over upsetting thoughts by
replaying them in our mind.”
Even though I confront rumination every day in my practice, I teamed up with a couple of experts who
wrote books on the topic: Dr. Margaret Weherenberg, a psychologist and author of The 10 Best-Ever
Anxiety Management Techniques and The 10 Best-Ever Depression Management Techniques, and Dr.
Guy Winch, a psychologist and author of Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and
Other Everyday Hurts. Hopefully between the three of us, we can shed some light on this aggravating
problem and help you deal.
2. Rumination is closely tied to depression and anxiety
In a few ways - it can be a symptom of both, make them worse, or make you more susceptible to them in
the first place. As a psychologist who has dealt with overthinking on both a personal and professional
level, I can definitively confirm: it sucks. It steals time and energy, and rarely produces anything
worthwhile. And by exhausting you in the process, it makes you more susceptible to its close relatives,
anxiety and depression.
3. It might feel like you're problem-solving, but you're actually not.
While many problems are resolved by giving them careful thought and deliberation, Weherenberg
explains that “rumination is repetitive thinking - going over and over the same thought or problem
without any resolution. A problem does not get solved: it intensifies by ruminating on it. It is simply
repeating (typically negative) thoughts without mentally moving to a new perspective.” Winch adds,
“Rumination does not lead to new insights or understanding, it just spins us around like we’re trapped in
an emotionally distressing hamster wheel.”
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While rumination isn’t its own diagnosis, it is unique in that it can be a symptom of both depression and
anxiety. The depressed person dwells on losses and missteps from the past, while the anxious ruminator
drowns in a sea of “what if” questions, forever envisioning the negative outcome. Whether it’s what we
can’t change or can’t predict, sometimes our brains get stuck trying to control the uncontrollable.
5. Not to mention, it impacts our bodies.
“Replaying distressing thoughts is like picking at emotional scabs because it brings up the distress each
time we have the thought, and floods our body with stress hormones as a result,” says Winch. “We can
easily spend hours and days stewing in upsetting thoughts and by doing so putting ourselves in a state of
physical stress and emotional distress. As a result, habitual rumination significantly increases our risk
of developing clinical depression, impaired problem solving, eating disorders, substance abuse, and even
cardiovascular disease.”
6. It's not great for our brains, either.
Repeating the rumination cycle results in changed brain circuitry, says Wehrenberg. “Rumination
actually changes the structure of the brain - not unlike changing a footpath into a roadway into a
highway with a lot of on-ramps - so it gets easier and easier to fall into rumination.“
7. And the more you do it, the harder it is to stop.
It becomes routine, says Weherenberg. “Rumination becomes a habit of thought. It is a challenge to shift
to another thought. A person who believes, ‘If I just think about it long enough I will figure it out,’ is
making a mistake. The more habitual the thought, the harder it is to break it.”
8. Being aware is your first line of defense.
As with many mental health issues, awareness always helps. According to Winch, your first step is to
identify ruminative thoughts and flag them as harmful. "Once a ruminative thought becomes repetitive
(or starts out that way) we need to catch it and convert it into a useful problem solving task - by posing it
as a problem that can be answered as opposed to one that cannot be," he says. For example, convert, "I
can’t believe this happened" to "What can I do to prevent it from happening again?" or convert "I don’t
have good friends!" to "What steps could I take to deepen the friendships I have and find new ones?"
You can overthink the hell out of them.